So how did it all begin?

Where to begin is a very good question! I must’ve changed this page a thousand times now, such is the roller coaster that is blogging. The truth is I owe more than you could possibly imagine to this blog. I started writing at a time when I didn’t have a penny to my name. I’d just returned from a period of travelling after eight years of working in the financial services industry and spotted an opportunity to do something that I really loved. That was four years ago now and along the way I’ve had many ups and downs but today I am very fortunate to say that I am now a TV Presenter. How did I get here? Through blogging of course, which is why I still write – it changed my life!

What’s it all about?

When I first started writing it was a toss up between football and food but very quickly realised that those were particularly crowded markets. I wanted to stand out, I wanted to do something different that no one else was doing and that was when I realised that there were very few men writing about dating and relationships. But trust me when I say I’m no expert. My writing is based purely on my experiences, both the good and the bad, some of which you just wouldn’t believe are true. So yeah it’s more of a learn from my mistakes than ‘do this’ and ‘do that’ but it all comes from a good place and more often not you’ll find me poking fun at myself – it’s good to laugh about these things.

How’s it all been going?

As I say blogging has changed everything for me and I’m so grateful for it. From working in call centres and then being unemployed, I’m now a TV presenter, have written for some of the biggest publications in the world and worked with brands who I never dreamed would even know my name. Most importantly, however, my success absolutely fills me with pride because I’m completely self-made. It also meant the world to me to make my family proud again after so many past failures i.e dropping out of higher education four times (must be a record). 2017 was a particularly good year for me, I finished runner up at the UK Blog Awards in April but then won Dating Blogger of the Year at the UK Dating Awards in November, although I do what I do because I love it it’s always a real thrill to get some recognition.

What’s Next?

Well I now teach a Blogging for Beginners class locally which is just my little way of giving back, it’s also been fun helping people learn from my mistakes so that maybe they can be successful quicker than I was. April sees the return of the UK Blog Awards which is always an incredible night so fingers crossed for that and of course I’ve got lots of exciting stuff coming up in the presenting world. Again though, I’m just grateful, I still feel like blogging is widely underrated by much of the mainstream media and I thoroughly enjoy proving people wrong and long may it continue.

Thank you for reading!


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    1. hi Paul, thank you so much for reading my post I really appreciate it. I read your intro and it was just great. I am from a part of New York State that is about an hours drive from New York City where my son lives. I will read all your stuff, and please continue reading mine. gregdblog

  1. Thanks for the follow, Paul. Look forward to immersing myself in your writing (and hopefully picking up a few tips along the way). Cheers Lucia

  2. Dear John,
    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m glad, for pure selfish reasons, because that means I found yours which is really good, funny and well-written. I won’t hassle you with liking all of your previous posts but truly, awesome stuff. X

    1. I’m gonna let you call me John because you gave me such lovely comments haha. No seriously this really means a lot to me, really appreciate anyone who takes the time to read my stuff. Thanks for following, keep in touch! X

  3. Thanks for reading and clicking the “like” button. I write for my friend Z. She deserves an advocate. She should have someone to stand up and say that there is nothing wrong with her and much worth. She lets me do that. The interaction from people that read and like reassures us that, perhaps, our quest to see her, and the LBGT community, treated just like “my demographic” has a chance. Thanks, again.

  4. I dont usually follow back but something about your writing got to me and just got me reading post after post. Keep up the good work looking forward to more (;

  5. Hiya Paul! Thank you kindly for stopping my blog and for the follow – I know there are a zillion of us out here, so I do not take follows lightly by any means! πŸ™‚ I hope you find plenty to keep you entertained – I will be checking out your site as well -just wanted to say thanks! Mother Hen

    1. Hi πŸ™‚ it’s no problem. Likewise, I really appreciate anyone taking any form of interest in my blog so thank you also. Look forward to reading more of your stuff, keep in touch. Paul

  6. We share the same interests in the topic of romance.
    The motivation, thought and ideas of a relationship is enough fuel for a blog! πŸ™‚
    You have a great blog and thanks for reading my poem!

  7. First off, you are intriguing for several reasons, I find your writing and your aspirations noteworthy. I’m enjoying your blog, but I also feel connected to your fascination with people. I’m a wannabe documentary filmmaker myself. I love studying people. I’m interesting in conversing more with you some time. Thank you for loving blogging and sharing yourself with us.

  8. Hi Paul..loved your blog and you are very talented..thank you for dropping by and giving me an opportunity to visit you…Wishing you all the best ..may your dreams come true.. πŸ™‚ Cheers, Nishi

  9. Thanks for the follow. You have some great work here. Keep your head held high and set your intentions. Your dreams will come true. I look forward to returning in the near future.

  10. hey ‘ paul thankyou for reading to my post’s i was new here and kinda felt amazing when i got that you followed me and readed my post’s and now i would definately read you post in future also ‘ and i like the way you express your thought’s keep doing it …..i just wish i could be the same writer as you’re now πŸ˜‰

    1. Thank you andriken you’ve made my day πŸ™‚ just enjoy what your writing that’s the main thing but if you ever need advice feel free to message me any time. Good luck with your blog. Paul

    1. Don’t be silly I appreciate every comment so much and positive feedback like this makes blogging worthwhile so thank you it means a lot to me. I look forward to reading more of your posts. Have a great weekend. Paul

  11. Hi Paul, Thank you for following my blog, (Lambrettista.net). Enjoying what I’ve seen of yours, looking forward to digging deeper. I’m a fellow glaswegian, and, though I left a long time a go, still a proud Partick Thistle supporter, but don’t hold that against me.

  12. You could create gorgeous black and white coffee table books (small trim sizes done in a series, perhaps 7 – representing each of the seven continents) to accompany your documentaries…could be quite fascinating especially in today’s recycled/throw away world – capturing love or escaping it…until one is too old or just too tired to run anymore πŸ˜‰
    AnnMarie πŸ™‚
    You convey your thoughts with sincere clarity…

  13. Thanks for following my blog “In So Many Words.” Hmmm … dating and relationships. It’s funny how people find each other. My husband and I were introduced to each other by three separate “matchmakers” at a party one evening, all of whom thought we’d be perfect for each other. I guess they were right … πŸ˜‰ … Enjoy the journey … Dorothy

  14. Paul! Thanks a bunch for giving my
    Blog a look in and following! Love the idea of yours to discuss the things that probably dominate people’s thoughts every day!

    Will definitely be keeping up with your potentially very helpful posts! πŸ™‚

      1. I totally agree with Hughesonthewnews! I’m a firm believer in talking about daily problems. Whether that be for all of us or just one persons. As a fellow Scot, and a filmmaker, the idea of your blog being a documentary is exciting and something i would watch. Have you ever thought of vlogging?

        Keep inspiring people! I’ll be keeping an eye on your posts!
        Jen πŸ™‚

        1. Thank you Jen I really appreciate that! Vlogging is definitely something I’ve considered, but if I do it I want to do it well and I just don’t have the right camera equipment at the moment. As a filmmaker I would really appreciate any tips, would be exciting to work with you sometime if it was ever possible πŸ™‚ Paul

          1. That is a very good point, I am in that boat too at the moment! Working together sounds exciting! It would be a pleasure if we could in the future! hopefully one day! πŸ™‚ Jen

  15. Thank you for the visit and especially the follow, Paul. You have a fantastic idea for your blog. I wish you the best. May you have great success now and in the future.
    blessings ~ maxi

  16. Thanks for visiting and following my blog, Paul πŸ™‚

    What an awesome blog you have! Making it easier (I hope) for a lot of singles out there.
    Keep the good stuff coming.

    Hello all the way from Dubai – where the dating scene is quite eclectic!

      1. This is a melting pot of culture where east meets west in equal measure. You can just imagine the cultural extremes that might come into play when dating.

        Anyhow, looking forward to reading your Dubai dating post sometime soon πŸ™‚

  17. Paul…thanks so much for taking the time to read, like and follow my blog…i’m new to the blogging world and i’m addicted and in love…spent all morning with your writing – it’s awesome and amazing!!! look forward to reading more…

    thanks from a lil island in canada – newfoundland…

    1. Hey πŸ™‚ I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed it, can’t tell you how much it means to me to know my writing has reached such far away corners of the world especially somewhere I would love to visit! Keep in touch, paul

  18. Hello Paul! I’ve been away for some time now from blogging and from writing altogether. I come back to find that you have become a subscriber to Shadows of Love and I am ever so grateful. My apologies for the delay in contact with you. I’ve delighted in your black and white photos above and look forward to getting to know your work soon! Ta, Debbie

  19. Hi Paul, glad you found me, and thus I found you. Greetings from Australia. Look me up when you make that doco. I’m ALWAYS in love!

  20. Thank you for liking my “Seeds of Love” Paul. For me, life is love, feelings and emotions; our relationship with ourselves and how we relate to everything and everyone outside our inner world. It is beautiful to read your blog, but most importantly, to see how alive you are. Your sensitivity and appreciation for life shine through your words.

  21. I’m happy you’re following me at russwollman.com. Your desire to make docs about love and dating sounds great. The material available to you is inexhaustible, and the matter of love can always benefit from some fresh air and fresh thinking. I have never had love returned to me in the manner I gave it, which is to say that nothing has ever lasted more than a year. If you read “I Write These Words Because of You” on my blog, it may give you some feeling for how my understanding of love grew out of the experiences recorded there.

    To cut to the chase: Let us stay in touch. Scotland is on my hot list.

    All the best to you,
    Russ Wollman

    Here are the words of one great sage: “Love is an extreme degree of appreciation,” and, “The fact that I love you is no concern of yours.”

  22. Thanks for the follow Paul, look forward to reading your work. I hail from magical Africa…. South Africa in a small coastal town right down south. I have a partner so don’t have to worry about dating – if I did it would be a nightmare in this town where women outweigh men by a huge amount. Have a great 2015

  23. Thank you for following my blog, I’m still trying to work out what exactly I’m doing with it, it all seems like a lot of nonsense at moment, but I’m glad you enjoyed it enough to follow, anyway I’ve enjoyed scrolling through your blog, I like the sentiment of what you’re trying to put cross and look forward to seeing more in the future.

  24. Dear Paul,
    first: what a cool blog of yours! Really interesting to read the menΒ΄s sight of dating, relationship and single life in that way of your writing style! I realize the need of reading more πŸ˜‰
    second: Great how you do it and how you share it – thanks, too. This is really motivating.
    third: I feel amazingly honored, thanks a lot for realizing and checking out my blog and a BIG THANKS for following! Big Hug for that.
    If you ever visit Munich => let me know!
    BIG HUG once more πŸ™‚

  25. Thank you for the follow, as it has brought me to a wonderful blog I’m happy to know about! I’ve only read a few posts so far, and I am already completely hooked. Your blog is so easy to read and I can just relax and enjoy it. Here, have my likes, just take all my likes πŸ™‚

  26. Hi Paul! Thanks for following icantadultrightnow I’m glad you stumbled upon my blog as you are much further along than I am and truly inspiring for me. Looking forward to reading more of your work!

  27. Greetings from the wee county, my family and I moved to Clackmannanshire two and a half years ago and I must say Glasgow is a magical city. Completely different from Edinburgh, people more friendly, more interesting things to do. But now I’ve digressed- thank you very much for stopping by my blog because it gave me the opportunity to find yours.

    This is something I’ve tossed out there in my blog, hoping it would spark some interest. Think it could be a great event for fellow bloggers to meet up and discuss ideas.

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