My Story

I constantly feel the need to update this page as my blog and my story continue to evolve, so I guess the easiest thing to do is to tell you all how I got into Blogging and how it ultimately changed my career.

After leaving school I didn’t really have a clue what I wanted to do with myself, I ended up studying Business Management for two years before leaving University to study Interior Design and later Agriculture – bit of a mixed bag you might say. In an even more surprising move I ended up working in the Insurance industry for eight years. Fair to say I hated it, I still don’t know how I was there for so long. It got to the point where every year I would ask for unpaid leave to go travelling and every year I was promptly refused. Then a few years ago I decided to take control of the situation myself, I worked my last day on Christmas Eve and on Boxing Day I was on a plane to Australia. It was a strange time for me, it’s not easy to leave your comfort zone so abruptly but looking back, it was the best decision I ever made.

When I got home a few months later, I was possibly at my lowest point career wise. I had no money, no job and no desire to get back into the Insurance game. I literally had to start again. That’s when I found Blogging and everything changed. I was unemployed but was determined to do something productive whilst I looked for work, that turned out to be writing. All I wanted to do is find some form of paid writing work even if I had to start from the bottom again. After countless failed applications for every internship under the sun, I decided to start a blog to show what I could really do, rather than wait for someone to ask me. A few short weeks later I wrote my first article for FHM and the rest is history. I’ve since written for countless other magazines including Marie Claire, had a newspaper column and become a TV and Radio regular – not exactly famous obviously but things have definitely improved since those difficult days when I got home from travelling. Blogging has also led to another role running a Social Media agency, I found that learning to promote myself as a Write on social media was a skill I could transfer to businesses and so far it seems to be working.

The best piece of advice I can give any aspiring Blogger is to pick a niche. When Editors and Producers come looking for contributors, they don’t want someone who writes well about ten different subjects, they want someone who specialises in one key area. For me that area was dating and relationships and later on mental health in men, it’s not that I’m an expert in these areas (who wants to date a dating expert after all) I just have a keen interest in the subjects and pride myself on writing from a brutally honest male perspective. The pipe dream for me is to make Documentaries and become the Louis Theroux or Dawn O’Porter of the dating world, Stacey Dooley is another big influence.

I can’t tell you how much I appreciate all of your comments, feedback and follows, no matter where in the world you are it honestly makes every second of writing completely worthwhile. I love meeting new people and hearing all of your amazing stories, some of which have been a source of great inspiration. Thank you for reading and always, always…keep in touch!

With Love,



    • July 23, 2014 / 10:05 pm

      hi Paul, thank you so much for reading my post I really appreciate it. I read your intro and it was just great. I am from a part of New York State that is about an hours drive from New York City where my son lives. I will read all your stuff, and please continue reading mine. gregdblog

      • July 23, 2014 / 10:31 pm

        Hey it’s my pleasure, I love New York it’s what I’d call one of my happy places πŸ™‚ thanks for reading I really appreciate it. Keep in touch. Paul

  1. July 6, 2014 / 2:45 pm

    Thanx for the follow!! Much appreciated.

    That Comeback Season

  2. July 7, 2014 / 11:25 pm

    Again thanx for the follow but I’m not updating Football 101 anymore. Least ways not until I finish other projects.

    That Comeback Season

  3. July 9, 2014 / 10:14 am


    Thanks for the follow – always appreciate the wisdom of a fellow dating blogger.

    Keep up the great work.


    • July 9, 2014 / 10:16 am

      Thank you πŸ™‚ no problem at all, look forward to reading more of your stuff. Keep in touch.


  4. July 10, 2014 / 12:03 am

    Thank you for stopping by my blog today….and for the follow!


  5. July 10, 2014 / 4:46 am

    Thanks for the follow, Paul. Look forward to immersing myself in your writing (and hopefully picking up a few tips along the way). Cheers Lucia

    • July 10, 2014 / 10:32 am

      Likewise! Look forward to reading your posts πŸ™‚

  6. July 10, 2014 / 7:01 pm

    Thanks for the follow and have a nice day

  7. July 11, 2014 / 7:26 am

    Dear John,
    Thanks for stopping by my blog. I’m glad, for pure selfish reasons, because that means I found yours which is really good, funny and well-written. I won’t hassle you with liking all of your previous posts but truly, awesome stuff. X

    • July 11, 2014 / 10:45 am

      I’m gonna let you call me John because you gave me such lovely comments haha. No seriously this really means a lot to me, really appreciate anyone who takes the time to read my stuff. Thanks for following, keep in touch! X

        • July 11, 2014 / 10:56 am

          No don’t be silly it made me laugh. Thanks again πŸ™‚

  8. July 11, 2014 / 11:56 am

    You have a wondrous gift. Thanks for sharing it so freely. Thanks, too, for the like and the follow. Which I’m delighted to reciprocate…

    • July 11, 2014 / 11:58 am

      Thank you Elouise that genuinely means a lot to me. Thanks for following, keep in touch.

  9. July 11, 2014 / 1:40 pm

    Thanks for reading and clicking the “like” button. I write for my friend Z. She deserves an advocate. She should have someone to stand up and say that there is nothing wrong with her and much worth. She lets me do that. The interaction from people that read and like reassures us that, perhaps, our quest to see her, and the LBGT community, treated just like “my demographic” has a chance. Thanks, again.

  10. July 11, 2014 / 9:56 pm

    Hi Paul, thanks for liking my stuff. Regards, Michael.

    • July 11, 2014 / 9:57 pm

      Not a problem, look forward to reading more.

  11. July 12, 2014 / 10:05 pm

    thanks for following-I look forward to more of your posts- best ana

    • July 12, 2014 / 10:08 pm

      Likewise πŸ™‚ look forward to reading your posts. Best wishes. Paul

  12. Raey.
    July 13, 2014 / 1:21 pm

    I dont usually follow back but something about your writing got to me and just got me reading post after post. Keep up the good work looking forward to more (;

  13. July 13, 2014 / 3:50 pm

    Hiya Paul! Thank you kindly for stopping my blog and for the follow – I know there are a zillion of us out here, so I do not take follows lightly by any means! πŸ™‚ I hope you find plenty to keep you entertained – I will be checking out your site as well -just wanted to say thanks! Mother Hen

    • July 13, 2014 / 4:33 pm

      Hi πŸ™‚ it’s no problem. Likewise, I really appreciate anyone taking any form of interest in my blog so thank you also. Look forward to reading more of your stuff, keep in touch. Paul

  14. July 13, 2014 / 5:19 pm

    Thanks for following. Love, David

  15. July 14, 2014 / 8:12 am

    Hi Paul, thanks for finding and following my blog! SD

    • July 14, 2014 / 6:07 pm

      Thanks you so much that really means a lot to me, very much appreciated. Paul

      • July 14, 2014 / 6:33 pm

        Well deserved πŸ™‚ All the best for you and your blog!

    • July 15, 2014 / 12:21 am

      Yeah we’ve actually already spoke, thanks though πŸ™‚

  16. July 15, 2014 / 3:06 am

    thanks for following my blog and for sharing your experiences

  17. July 15, 2014 / 12:12 pm

    We share the same interests in the topic of romance.
    The motivation, thought and ideas of a relationship is enough fuel for a blog! πŸ™‚
    You have a great blog and thanks for reading my poem!

    • July 19, 2014 / 11:36 am

      Thank you really appreciate your comments. It is amazing how these subjects never leave you struggling for ideas. All the best, Paul

      • July 22, 2014 / 5:38 pm

        You’re welcome!
        Exactly! This is why I love your blog!
        Have a nice day!

  18. July 15, 2014 / 2:02 pm

    Thanks for following my blog – much appreciated! Am reading and enjoying yours πŸ™‚

  19. July 15, 2014 / 3:33 pm

    First off, you are intriguing for several reasons, I find your writing and your aspirations noteworthy. I’m enjoying your blog, but I also feel connected to your fascination with people. I’m a wannabe documentary filmmaker myself. I love studying people. I’m interesting in conversing more with you some time. Thank you for loving blogging and sharing yourself with us.

    • July 15, 2014 / 7:31 pm

      Adam thank you so much, comments like this make blogging worthwhile and I’m really glad you’re enjoying my posts. Would love to chat with you more, feel free to email me anytime,

  20. July 15, 2014 / 8:20 pm

    Thanks for stopping by my blog and for the follow. I love your blog!

  21. July 15, 2014 / 9:59 pm

    Hi Paul..loved your blog and you are very talented..thank you for dropping by and giving me an opportunity to visit you…Wishing you all the best ..may your dreams come true.. πŸ™‚ Cheers, Nishi

    • July 15, 2014 / 10:04 pm

      Thank you Nishi πŸ™‚ that means so much to me I’m glad you like my posts. I love your writing style I’m looking forward to reading more of your stuff. Keep in touch, Paul

      • July 15, 2014 / 10:07 pm

        Will do, Thank you Paul.. πŸ™‚

  22. joannern
    July 16, 2014 / 12:25 am

    Thanks for visiting my blog! Enjoyed your blog too and looking forward to your further posts πŸ™‚

    • July 16, 2014 / 5:44 am

      Thank you Joanne that really means a lot, love your writing πŸ™‚ keep in touch. Paul

  23. July 16, 2014 / 5:19 am

    Thanks for following me! wonderful blog you have here πŸ™‚

  24. July 16, 2014 / 6:12 am

    Thanks for the follow. You have some great work here. Keep your head held high and set your intentions. Your dreams will come true. I look forward to returning in the near future.

    • July 16, 2014 / 10:35 am

      Thank you so much that really mean a lot to me. Likewise I look forward to reading more of your blog πŸ™‚ keep in touch. Paul

  25. July 16, 2014 / 8:59 am

    hey ‘ paul thankyou for reading to my post’s i was new here and kinda felt amazing when i got that you followed me and readed my post’s and now i would definately read you post in future also ‘ and i like the way you express your thought’s keep doing it …..i just wish i could be the same writer as you’re now πŸ˜‰

    • July 16, 2014 / 10:43 am

      Thank you andriken you’ve made my day πŸ™‚ just enjoy what your writing that’s the main thing but if you ever need advice feel free to message me any time. Good luck with your blog. Paul

  26. July 18, 2014 / 7:53 pm

    Thanks so much for stopping by my blog:) Your blog seems so interesting! Xo

    • July 18, 2014 / 7:58 pm

      Thank you so much I really appreciate it, looking forward to reading more of your stuff. Keep in touch. Paul x

  27. July 18, 2014 / 9:23 pm

    Thanks for the follow πŸ™‚

  28. July 18, 2014 / 9:55 pm

    Paul, I hate to sound redundant but…thanks for stopping by my blog. You are a great writer! You express yourself so well. I enjoyed reading and will continue to. Keep up the great work!

    • July 18, 2014 / 9:59 pm

      Don’t be silly I appreciate every comment so much and positive feedback like this makes blogging worthwhile so thank you it means a lot to me. I look forward to reading more of your posts. Have a great weekend. Paul

  29. July 19, 2014 / 6:57 am

    Hi Paul, Thank you for following my blog, ( Enjoying what I’ve seen of yours, looking forward to digging deeper. I’m a fellow glaswegian, and, though I left a long time a go, still a proud Partick Thistle supporter, but don’t hold that against me.

    • July 19, 2014 / 11:38 am

      No problem at all πŸ™‚ that’s so interesting I used to live just a stones throw away from their stadium. Where are you based now?

      • July 21, 2014 / 4:14 pm

        I’m in Staines, Middlesex… which isn’t as bad as it sounds πŸ™‚

  30. July 21, 2014 / 12:10 pm

    You could create gorgeous black and white coffee table books (small trim sizes done in a series, perhaps 7 – representing each of the seven continents) to accompany your documentaries…could be quite fascinating especially in today’s recycled/throw away world – capturing love or escaping it…until one is too old or just too tired to run anymore πŸ˜‰
    AnnMarie πŸ™‚
    You convey your thoughts with sincere clarity…

    • July 21, 2014 / 12:24 pm

      Haha thank you AnnMarie thats actually a great idea!! Thank you for reading my blog it really means a lot. Keep in touch, Paul

  31. July 23, 2014 / 1:31 pm

    Thanks for visiting and following! πŸ™‚ Such a well put together blog!

  32. July 24, 2014 / 12:30 pm

    Wow, just discovered you are following my blog πŸ™‚ I will come back to yours this weekend and take time reading.

    • July 24, 2014 / 12:52 pm

      Not a problem πŸ™‚ I love the message your blog puts across, it’s going to make me appreciate my day more. Keep in touch. Paul

  33. July 25, 2014 / 10:46 am

    Gaun yersel….thanks for following, delighted to have found you….look forward to your posts.

  34. July 25, 2014 / 2:41 pm

    Thanks for following my blog “In So Many Words.” Hmmm … dating and relationships. It’s funny how people find each other. My husband and I were introduced to each other by three separate “matchmakers” at a party one evening, all of whom thought we’d be perfect for each other. I guess they were right … πŸ˜‰ … Enjoy the journey … Dorothy

  35. July 27, 2014 / 7:32 pm

    Thank you my dear, for LIKING my photograph THE GHOST I AM. I appreciate it!

  36. July 28, 2014 / 6:55 am

    I nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. Click here to see the nomination: VIBA

  37. July 28, 2014 / 5:26 pm

    Thanks for the follow! Very impressed with your blog! : )

  38. July 30, 2014 / 5:57 pm

    Paul! Thanks a bunch for giving my
    Blog a look in and following! Love the idea of yours to discuss the things that probably dominate people’s thoughts every day!

    Will definitely be keeping up with your potentially very helpful posts! πŸ™‚

    • July 30, 2014 / 5:59 pm

      It’s my pleasure. Really liked your blog! Keep in touch πŸ™‚ paul

      • May 21, 2016 / 8:34 am

        I totally agree with Hughesonthewnews! I’m a firm believer in talking about daily problems. Whether that be for all of us or just one persons. As a fellow Scot, and a filmmaker, the idea of your blog being a documentary is exciting and something i would watch. Have you ever thought of vlogging?

        Keep inspiring people! I’ll be keeping an eye on your posts!
        Jen πŸ™‚

        • May 22, 2016 / 6:40 pm

          Thank you Jen I really appreciate that! Vlogging is definitely something I’ve considered, but if I do it I want to do it well and I just don’t have the right camera equipment at the moment. As a filmmaker I would really appreciate any tips, would be exciting to work with you sometime if it was ever possible πŸ™‚ Paul

          • May 22, 2016 / 10:31 pm

            That is a very good point, I am in that boat too at the moment! Working together sounds exciting! It would be a pleasure if we could in the future! hopefully one day! πŸ™‚ Jen

  39. July 30, 2014 / 9:09 pm

    Your about page has me intrigued. I look forward to reading more of your stuff.also thank you for the follow at Welcome to JennTerra!

  40. August 1, 2014 / 4:45 am

    I’ve really enjoyed reading through your blog. You’ve got a really nice perspective on things! Keep at it! πŸ™‚

  41. August 4, 2014 / 4:42 pm

    Thank you for the visit and especially the follow, Paul. You have a fantastic idea for your blog. I wish you the best. May you have great success now and in the future.
    blessings ~ maxi

    • August 4, 2014 / 4:54 pm

      Maxi you are a sweetheart thank you so much. Keep in touch , Paul πŸ™‚

  42. August 5, 2014 / 11:19 am

    Hello! Thank you for visiting Mywearymind and liking a post, and a follow also! I look forward to reading more of yours!

  43. August 5, 2014 / 11:42 pm

    This documentary really needs to happen. I would gladly be your American correspondent/right hand gal πŸ™‚

    • August 5, 2014 / 11:51 pm

      Haha it’s a deal πŸ™‚ can’t remember if I mentioned before but I added your blog to my recommended blogs page. Hope you’re well. Paul x

  44. August 6, 2014 / 5:04 pm

    Thanks for visiting and following my blog, Paul πŸ™‚

    What an awesome blog you have! Making it easier (I hope) for a lot of singles out there.
    Keep the good stuff coming.

    Hello all the way from Dubai – where the dating scene is quite eclectic!

    • August 6, 2014 / 5:16 pm

      Hi πŸ™‚ great to hear from you! I can’t begin to imagine what the dating scene in Dubai is like maybe I should write about it haha. Keep in touch. Paul

      • August 6, 2014 / 5:47 pm

        This is a melting pot of culture where east meets west in equal measure. You can just imagine the cultural extremes that might come into play when dating.

        Anyhow, looking forward to reading your Dubai dating post sometime soon πŸ™‚

  45. August 10, 2014 / 1:17 pm

    Paul…thanks so much for taking the time to read, like and follow my blog…i’m new to the blogging world and i’m addicted and in love…spent all morning with your writing – it’s awesome and amazing!!! look forward to reading more…

    thanks from a lil island in canada – newfoundland…

    • August 10, 2014 / 2:49 pm

      Hey πŸ™‚ I’m so glad you’ve enjoyed it, can’t tell you how much it means to me to know my writing has reached such far away corners of the world especially somewhere I would love to visit! Keep in touch, paul

  46. August 11, 2014 / 7:30 pm

    What a great idea for a blog. I’m looking forward to reading through it more. Thanks for the follow on my blog!! Tina

  47. August 12, 2014 / 8:30 pm

    Greetings Paul! Finally checked your blog….this is great and love your b/w pics. Also thank you for finding me (the needle) in the haystack. Looking forward.

    • August 21, 2014 / 9:18 pm

      Thank you that means so much πŸ™‚ look forward to reading your blog keep in touch. Paul

  48. August 28, 2014 / 6:32 pm

    Hello Paul! I’ve been away for some time now from blogging and from writing altogether. I come back to find that you have become a subscriber to Shadows of Love and I am ever so grateful. My apologies for the delay in contact with you. I’ve delighted in your black and white photos above and look forward to getting to know your work soon! Ta, Debbie

  49. September 7, 2014 / 3:21 pm

    Accidently came across your blog in all honesty, but I’m so glad I did! Fab writing x

  50. September 20, 2014 / 9:26 pm

    Thanks so much for your follow of Heart of Life Alchemy. I find your blog very interesting.

  51. thursdaychild1973
    October 1, 2014 / 9:58 pm

    Hi Paul, glad you found me, and thus I found you. Greetings from Australia. Look me up when you make that doco. I’m ALWAYS in love!

    • October 1, 2014 / 10:08 pm

      Hey πŸ™‚ I’m not long back from Australia you’ve just made me miss it haha

  52. Dima
    October 12, 2014 / 1:09 pm

    Thank you for liking my “Seeds of Love” Paul. For me, life is love, feelings and emotions; our relationship with ourselves and how we relate to everything and everyone outside our inner world. It is beautiful to read your blog, but most importantly, to see how alive you are. Your sensitivity and appreciation for life shine through your words.

  53. October 15, 2014 / 5:33 pm

    Thanks for the like on my post! I’m glad you liked it because it lead me to your blog, which I think is great!

  54. October 17, 2014 / 8:06 pm

    Hey, Paul … thanks for dropping by my blog and the honor of a follow. How great to find a male voice blogging on the prats and pitfalls of relationships!

  55. October 19, 2014 / 10:52 pm

    I’ve just stumbled onto your blog and find it so interesting! Really looking forward to reading more of your writing!

    • October 20, 2014 / 7:23 am

      Hi Daniel thank you so much that means a lot to me and likewise I look forward to reading more of your stuff. All the best, Paul

  56. October 27, 2014 / 3:26 pm

    Thank you so much for following my blog!! Yours is so lovely!! Can’t wait to read more!

    • November 3, 2014 / 9:36 pm

      Haha thanks Amanda I really appreciate it! Always up for a bit of glitter lol x

  57. December 1, 2014 / 5:17 pm

    Hello mate,

    Thanks for the follow! I’ve wrote some posts on relationships as well, love to know your thoughts on them.


  58. December 8, 2014 / 1:55 am

    I’m happy you’re following me at Your desire to make docs about love and dating sounds great. The material available to you is inexhaustible, and the matter of love can always benefit from some fresh air and fresh thinking. I have never had love returned to me in the manner I gave it, which is to say that nothing has ever lasted more than a year. If you read “I Write These Words Because of You” on my blog, it may give you some feeling for how my understanding of love grew out of the experiences recorded there.

    To cut to the chase: Let us stay in touch. Scotland is on my hot list.

    All the best to you,
    Russ Wollman

    Here are the words of one great sage: “Love is an extreme degree of appreciation,” and, “The fact that I love you is no concern of yours.”

    • December 18, 2014 / 9:51 pm

      Hi Russ, apologies for the late reply thank you so much for your wonderful comments really means a lot that youve taken the time to read and share your comments. Keep in touch. PTB

  59. January 1, 2015 / 1:59 pm

    Thanks for the follow Paul, look forward to reading your work. I hail from magical Africa…. South Africa in a small coastal town right down south. I have a partner so don’t have to worry about dating – if I did it would be a nightmare in this town where women outweigh men by a huge amount. Have a great 2015

  60. January 2, 2015 / 12:25 am

    Thank you for following my blog, I’m still trying to work out what exactly I’m doing with it, it all seems like a lot of nonsense at moment, but I’m glad you enjoyed it enough to follow, anyway I’ve enjoyed scrolling through your blog, I like the sentiment of what you’re trying to put cross and look forward to seeing more in the future.

  61. January 19, 2015 / 9:31 pm

    Thank you for following my blog PTB! Hope my ridiculous dating encounters are fodder for your future awesome documentary πŸ˜‰ Press on, love.

  62. January 25, 2015 / 7:52 am

    You have very excellent blog! I enjoy it! Continue also! The best regards! – Vlad

    • January 25, 2015 / 3:25 pm

      Thank you Vlad i really appreciate that! Keep in touch

  63. April 18, 2015 / 11:02 am

    Thanks for following my blog, sorry I just got round to following yours – looks great btw! Well done. Look forward to reading your posts. Best wishes.

  64. June 30, 2015 / 8:17 am

    Thanks for the follow! I’m a bit new to all this. Your blog looks right up my street, shall follow with interest. All the best, Indie πŸ™‚

  65. July 5, 2015 / 10:21 pm

    Dear Paul,
    first: what a cool blog of yours! Really interesting to read the menΒ΄s sight of dating, relationship and single life in that way of your writing style! I realize the need of reading more πŸ˜‰
    second: Great how you do it and how you share it – thanks, too. This is really motivating.
    third: I feel amazingly honored, thanks a lot for realizing and checking out my blog and a BIG THANKS for following! Big Hug for that.
    If you ever visit Munich => let me know!
    BIG HUG once more πŸ™‚

    • July 5, 2015 / 10:25 pm

      Hey Monika thank you so much that really mean a lot! I would love to come to Munich sometime so keep in touch! x

  66. January 4, 2016 / 4:31 am

    Hey, thanks for the like.
    i think your blog is awesome.
    Cyber Hugs

  67. May 6, 2016 / 9:11 am

    Thank you for the follow, as it has brought me to a wonderful blog I’m happy to know about! I’ve only read a few posts so far, and I am already completely hooked. Your blog is so easy to read and I can just relax and enjoy it. Here, have my likes, just take all my likes πŸ™‚

    • May 6, 2016 / 1:17 pm

      Hey πŸ™‚ thank you so much that honestly means a lot!! Look forward to reading more of your work. Keep in touch! Paul

  68. August 10, 2016 / 3:00 am

    Hi Paul! Thanks for following icantadultrightnow I’m glad you stumbled upon my blog as you are much further along than I am and truly inspiring for me. Looking forward to reading more of your work!

    • August 10, 2016 / 7:18 am

      Hello πŸ™‚ it’s my pleasure. I’m always looking to read new blogs, we all have to start somewhere and you’re doing great keep it up and keep in touch πŸ™‚ Paul

  69. October 23, 2016 / 9:35 am

    Greetings from the wee county, my family and I moved to Clackmannanshire two and a half years ago and I must say Glasgow is a magical city. Completely different from Edinburgh, people more friendly, more interesting things to do. But now I’ve digressed- thank you very much for stopping by my blog because it gave me the opportunity to find yours.

    This is something I’ve tossed out there in my blog, hoping it would spark some interest. Think it could be a great event for fellow bloggers to meet up and discuss ideas.

    • October 23, 2016 / 12:57 pm

      That’s really interesting to hear thanks so much for stopping by, keep in touch. Paul

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