Get ahead of yourself – Being single is sometimes easier said than done, however, a date is just a date. Of course get excited, but don’t pin your life’s hopes and dreams on this one date – who needs that kind of pressure? If you go into a date already calling that person your boyfriend or girlfriend even just in your head, then you’re more than likely setting yourself up for failure. First and foremost, treat a date as just a fun night out and make the most of the opportunity to get to know someone – everything else is a welcome bonus. If it doesn’t work out, on to the next.
Talk about your ex – Let’s get it out of the way now, the golden rule of any first date. No one wants to know how heartbroken you were or how they were just using you to get close to your best friend. This is your chance to put it out of your mind, take it!
Get wasted – Nerves are the ultimate date killer and what do we do to get over nerves? We hit the bottle of course! Have a couple of drinks to take the edge off but know your limits. The last thing you need is your date getting dressed up only to be covered in your lunch after another Jaeger bomb. All jokes aside, it’s a crazy world out there, guys – make sure you’re in a position to check your date got home safely, and not the other way around.
Overdress – Remember it’s date night, not prom night. A lot of us are guilty of putting dates on a pedestal and as a result we often overdo it. Guys, I’d recommend leaving the shirt and tie at home. And girls, save the ball gowns for your Christmas night out. Wear something nice but comfortable – there’s nothing worse than wearing something that you need to check every five minutes to make sure it’s still in place.
Play with your phone – No playing with it under the table doesn’t make it invisible, your boss can see it and your date will too. Candy Crush, Facebook and Whatsapp can wait until you get home – or at least until they go to the toilet!
Go social media crazy – I once worked with a guy who changed his relationship status to ‘seeing someone’ five minutes after getting a phone number in a club. Later on in the night, he got a second phone number and changed his status to ‘it’s complicated’. Either way, avoid any major social media commitments until way further down the line. There’s a difference between keen and desperate – don’t be the latter.
and 4 Things you SHOULD do…
Give them a chance – It’s not uncommon to go on a date and rule out any prospective romance within three seconds of them opening their mouth. If this does happen, don’t be too quick off the mark to judge. Chat, have a laugh, get to know them and still enjoy the evening for what it is – a wee night out! Please don’t watch the clock and leave at the first opportunity. Alternatively, avoid destroying the poor soul’s confidence altogether by being pickier.
Change it up – Never recreate the same date twice, always try and be original – new places, different surroundings etc. I once went on two separate dates in the space of a week but it just so happened I got the same taxi driver both times, he said to date number two: “It was nice to meet you the other night”. Oops, I get the train now.
Research – Unsure about who you’re meeting? A brief Facebook stalk never hurt anyone. A quick glance at someone’s profile will confirm whether or not you’re meeting one of the creeps you’ve been trying to avoid. Hidden faces and only five friends (all of which are Russian girls) should set alarm bells ringing.
Find out what you need to know – Dating a series of ‘wrong uns’ can be both expensive and time consuming. If you have a list of deal breakers in your head, ask the right questions to find out if your date is up to scratch. Better to find this stuff out now than three months down the line.